It’s really difficult to start a family. You will face conflicts, crises, doubts, and that’s okay. If you react correctly, you will finally understand that it’s not a tragedy but a new level in your relationship.
WeGoRo wants the number of happy families to grow. That’s why we show the most dangerous factors that can ruin a marriage and how to cope with them.
Scientists working at the University of Utah claim that women who had less than 3 partners before marriage divorce much more often than experienced women of the same age. This is probably due to the fact that young girls sometimes marry just because they think they are madly in love. But, as a rule, this feeling ends quickly.
What to do? Marriage is difficult, long-lasting, and not always pleasant work. If you decide to get married, you have to realize it fully: "I’m taking responsibility for our relationship, and I’m definitely ready to work on it."
Modern psychology believes that strict rules in a household can also be a reason for divorce. Such rules give the impression of a second job, not a cozy home.
What to do? Be creative! Common jokes and traditions turn routine tasks into exciting games. Take it easy. Treat yourself by ordering a pizza or going to a nice cafe instead of cooking dinner with your last ounce of strength. Set aside house cleaning for later. Or just start a competition to see "who will remove the dust faster" with some nice prizes.
Close relationships with people who are divorcing can also influence your marriage badly if you have some misunderstandings. You might start to draw a parallel with those who have just broken up. And there is a risk that you will find much in common and decide that your marriage is over.
What to do? You should understand that if you stop meeting this "dangerous" couple, you will not actually resolve your relationship problems. You should have really close relations all the time, not just before or after a friend’s divorce. Open your hearts to each other, and be honest. When there is a good atmosphere in your relationship, external factors cannot destroy it.
A career is perfect when it doesn’t influence your personal life. Your image as a highly qualified specialist will become less important if you suddenly face the threat of losing your family. Of course, you shouldn’t neglect your duties at work, but you shouldn’t neglect your duties at home either.
What to do? Set your priorities. Separate your work from your family, and don’t exaggerate the importance of one thing over the other. Be ready to say "no" to your boss if he wants you to stay late on Friday evening. Be ready to explain to your beloved that today’s meeting is of high importance, and there is no chance to postpone it.
Conjugal infidelity is one of the most difficult problems that a family can face. If you’ve already made such a mistake, you should be ready to take responsibility.
What to do? You should understand that it’s even worse to keep your secret than to tell the truth. No one can be sure that your spouse will forgive you and the family will not be ruined. But such a secret will undoubtedly destroy your relationship from the inside. So we can say that honesty provides a chance to save a family, whereas lies take the last opportunity away.
Illustrated by Natalia Kulakova for BrightSide.me