Arthur Schopenhauer said that cowards create cowards, scoundrels create scoundrels, and losers can create only losers. Immanuel Kant, on the other hand, claimed that personality can’t be inherited and that it is formed by the influence of inner experience and external circumstances. He thought it was possible to develop and work on personality.
There is another theory that says a person can’t do anything about their lives because all failures are either enemies’ intrigues or destined to be. This theory is usually adopted by true losers.
WeGoRo put together 9 principles which totally “unlucky” people prefer to follow. We think that it is their approach to life that creates failures, not enemies or destiny. The glass is either half full or half empty, and it is up to us which to choose.
You couldn’t pass the entrance exams? That’s because you can enter a college or university only if you have connections or money. You didn’t receive your bonus at work? It’s because your idiotic boss acknowledges only relatives and sycophants. Your girlfriend dumped you? That’s because she is a tramp (if it’s a boyfriend, then he’s a jerk). You ran out of bread at home and there is no bread in the grocery store? Evident proof of a universal conspiracy against you.
Outsiders love to compare themselves to others. It doesn’t matter who you choose as a benchmark (more successful or less successful people), the result will not do you any good. If you compare yourself with someone very successful, then you will constantly feel pity for yourself. This is one of the most destructive human emotions, and it slows down a person’s growth. If, on the other hand, you prefer to compare yourself to someone who is far behind you, then you get an opportunity to make excuses for your inaction.
“You shouldn’t bite off more than you can chew!” “You can’t jump over your own head!” “This is not for me!” These words are loved by losers. To find an additional source of income, to learn a new language, to dare to give a compliment to a stranger — all these actions demand effort. It is much easier to find a weighty excuse and not make any attempts to change your life.
Many people like to complain about their misfortune, follow the opinion of others, change their convictions and goals a few times a day, or even give up on them because of the slightest difficulties. A loser can be a vegetarian today, but tomorrow they might start judging those who don’t eat meat because their bodies don’t receive enough vitamin B12.
Losers don’t know how to build relationships with people around them, and they can even be arrogant to those who are at a lower social level. This is why they say that if you want to reveal a person’s real face, pay attention to how they communicate with service personnel.
Outsiders live as if they have a spare life. The trendy term “procrastination” refers to more than daily chores like cleaning the house or washing. Losers always postpone things to fulfill their strivings to turn their lives into something very boring and dull.
Losers know almost everything...but very superficially. Ask any outsider how to bring a country to order and you will receive an exhaustive answer, even visualized if necessary. They believe that they are right and are ready to argue forever. At the same time, their house will probably be upside down and dirty.
“The cheaper, the better!” is the motto of many losers. It doesn’t matter if discounted socks tear the very next day, or cheap grain has bugs inside it, or a cheap vacation turns out to be a disaster. They keep on doing this year after year.
Losers are usually jealous, and they try to reveal the “true” reasons for somebody else’s success to explain their own discomfort. Is he rich? He is a thief. Is he popular? He is good at intrigue. Is he healthy? He just needs to visit a doctor. Does he have a happy marriage? He just knows how to conceal his cheating. Are you smiling? Look around, fool! In a loser’s opinion, there are no good things in life.
It’s hard not to agree that failures usually follow those who are looking for them. But whose fault is it that losers have that state of mind? Whose point of view is closer to yours — the one by Schopenhauer or the one by Kant? Do you think that if a person is a true loser, it is forever? Or can they change things?
Illustrator Sergey Raskovalov for BrightSide.me