We’ve got too many stereotypes sitting firmly in our minds regarding the “right“ relationship between two people.
WeGoRo decided to summarize the stereotypically ”bad" interactions that are actually good for your relationship.
When there are no conflicts in a relationship, there is no trust in it either. If you keep your feelings to yourself, you can’t change anything. Arguments help let out the anger and tell your partner what you don’t like. You’ll find each other’s weak spots and begin understanding each other better.
Flirting with others helps sustain mutual sexual attraction. By flirting, we feel carefree and attractive, which raises our mood and self-esteem. It’s crucial to bring this positive energy into your relationship.
To keep your relationship healthy, it’s important to take care of yourself and be firm enough to stand your ground (and respect the same wish in your partner). Draw your limits (this I’ll tolerate, this I won’t), and set your own space, interests, and hobbies outside the relationship.
Every single couple goes through crises at one time or another. They are described in all classical psychology textbooks. That’s why it’s essential to learn to live through hardships, conflicts, dissatisfaction, and waiting and not to slam the door and break up at the slightest sign of difficulties.
If you’re together everywhere and always, then your relationship will inevitably become less passionate and even boring. Two individual “I’s“ become the all-encompassing ”we,“ making you perceive your partner the same as yourself, leaving your relationship devoid of intrigue or interest.
Always telling the naked truth is stupid at the very least. Otherwise, we wouldn’t keep any job, have any friends, or be in any kind of healthy relationship at all. “My mom thinks you’re good for nothing!“ and ”You’ve grown fat after pregnancy!" are not the words you should say to your significant other. If you value your partner, choose your words carefully. Some things aren’t worth mentioning at all.
We say goodbye to our hobbies and friends or make ourselves adjust to our partner’s interests to have a harmonious relationship. But as a result, we are the ones who discard our individuality and accumulate unhappiness and bad feelings that will definitely be let out at the next conflict.
Doting on your partner, guessing their desires, being oh-so-tender when it’s not asked for — in other words, being a good parent is absolutely not an option.
This results in:
Illustrated by Anna Syrovatkina for BrightSide.me